ASK MERCEDES

Ever wanted to ask an expert?  Well, here’s your chance.  Dear Mercedes is a new feature where you, my fans, can write to me with your questions and I’ll answer them.  Think of me as a sexy advice columnist who will answer your questions about love, relationships, men, women, stockings, pretty much anything.  Selected letters will also be posted on my site along with my response for the enjoyment of all my fans.  You’ll also get a response to your email question directly.  I can’t wait to read what’s on your mind, and give you my perspective on it.  I promise to do my best to respond to all your questions as quickly as possible, so please be patient with me as I get to all of the mail that will pour in.  Send your questions to: DEAR_MERCEDES@hotmail.com.

 

Most of today's skirts and dresses are being made with " built in liners" thus eliminating the need to wear slips.  Most young woman don't wear slips at all. Do you think that slips will eventually be discontinued?
Sue

 Dear Sue
You have brought up a great observation that goes to show that progress isn’t always for the better.

 The skirts and dresses of today that come pre-lined, eliminating the need for slips is much like when pantyhose were invented.  It’s a convenience thing.  And while I suppose they have their place in today’s world, with women working and not having time to mess with slips, I don’t think they will disappear totally.  I believe that most women still have the desire to be feminine and sexy, especially for the right guy, or maybe when trying to find the right guy.  I don’t know about you, but slipping on a soft pair of stockings, letting a silky, lacey slip fall over my warm flesh, and having fun, sexy undergarments on under my clothes gives me that womanly confidence I need to make me feel like a sexy seductress.  So, while stockings have survived the age of pantyhose, I’m confident that the slip will survive also.  As long as women want to feel sexy and feminine, and as long as men appreciate a woman doing that little extra to show him she cares, slips will continue to be around.  Heck, what is sexier in a movie than that shot with the woman’s slip dropping silently, softly to the floor as she embraces her man.  How could something as iconic as that disappear from society?Thanks for the question Sue! Long Live the Slip!

Your opinion, I read somewhere recently that Chemise's are replacing slips. Can you wear a chemise under a dress?  Also chemise's don't come with lace's on the hem.  Where is the sexyness of a lace hem showing from under a dress or skirt?

Thank you.  I know you recommend two places on the web to buy slips, do you know of other slip websites that sells sexy slips?

Hello Sue,
Let me answer both of your questions here.  I have found some lovely slips on Ebay before!  The chemise is a waist length top and as such you can wear it with a dress or skirt if it shows. Otherwise I wouldn't bother with it because it serves no practical use.

Hi,
 My wife has a hard time attaching garters to her stockings. Seems like you need to be a contortionist to attached them. She sometimes gets frustrated
 and well there goes the mood. Is there a special way to put them on or is there a better clip that works differently to hold the stocking? Thanks Mike

Hello Mike 
First of all, don’t let it get frustrating for either of you.  I don’t know if you help her or not, but relax, take your (or her) time and think about the reason for wearing them, not the actual work involved.

 I guess I’ll address some basics first.  Make sure the stockings are the right size.  Make sure the garter straps are adjusted to the right length (if they are adjustable that is).  Don’t make it harder than it already is by trying to pull up a stocking that is too short and connect it to a strap that is too short.  From experience, the more you use a garter belt, the easier it gets. I’ve also found that the garters with the metal clips seem to work a little easier and they are much more durable. 

 Remember, your wife is treating you to something very special , so don’t get frustrated if it takes longer than you want for her to get ready.  If helping her isn’t part of the plan, then make sure you put forth the effort to let her know how appreciative you are, make it worth her while when she gets them done! 


Mercedes
Let me just say you are one SEXY woman.  My questions - Do you have a favorite photo set, or photo?  Also, is there any one set that has a special memory or meaning for you?  I was just  wondering.  Dean

Hello Dean
To be honest, I have a hard time picking a favorite photo set.   I really enjoy posing on cars and motorcycles, like Hood Ornament, Classic Wheels & Classy Chassis.  I think Backseat Strip is another excellent set especially if you like long curls. Another more memorable photo set was me posing in my bath tub,  I found that wet stockings clinging to my legs was not only fun but felt really really good.  A memorable time was shooting Hauntingly Beautiful because the wind came up out of nowhere and seemed to enhance the whole experience. I was pleasantly surprised that it turned out especially since wind can be a problem and not always cooperate with Tom's photography (or my hair). But I think my all-time favorite set is Bareback where I finally posed on my horse that I had for many years of growing up. I once saw photo of singer "Tane' Cain" years earlier  that put the idea in my head.
As you can see I have trouble picking a favorite set, and I think you will too.
 

Hi Mercedes
I feel cheeky troubling you with a relatively trivial question, but as we go way back I’ll ask anyway. I am to marry my gorgeous fiancée Alison on March 3rd and she would like to wear ivory-coloured seamed stockings, but we’ve looked all over the Internet and can’t find any. Have you any suggestions, I wonder? Thanks Ian

Hello Ian,
http://www.touchable.couk.com/Fully_fashioned_plain.htm has them in Ivory and White. They are in your country and are excellent stockings. Also they may be purchase from www.secretsinlace.com if you are looking for a US source. Nice to hear from you again and CONGRATULATIONS.


Mercedes - you used to do pictures in public places at one time. Now it is just in your back yard or in a remote area. What is the reason for this? It sure seemed alot more fun when you were doing public place photos - thanks - Joe

Hello Joe
 It's not easy getting enough quality shots in a public setting these days to put together a set to sell. With all of the changing attitudes about erotic photo's, it's not like the "old days" when I could just go out and have the pictures taken without worrying about spending the night in jail or something. Not that I consider any of my photos anything close to what would be considered something to get me in trouble, but it's just easier to take them where I don't have to worry about that. So I've decided to keep the majority of my work in places where the photo's can be taken without the worries of outsiders interfering.


 

How frequently do you update your wonderful website?
Rick

Rick
We try to update it monthly.  Thanks for visiting the site and for being a fan.
 

how do you look as good or even better than you did ten yrs ago when you started? i love your look and your sexy legs in the sheer 15 denier or less rh&t and ff styles that i have loved for some 50 yrs now. i esp like it, as you know, when you show runs in your sheer blacks!  wally
 
Thanks so much for the nice complement.  There is something special about the classic look of stockings, be it rh&t, ff or any other styles.  Over the years I’ve figured out how to better pose to show off the stockings, so that my fans get the full effects of their charm I want to share.   I’m glad you, and the rest of my fans enjoy the pictures. 

Hi Mercedes,
Occasionally I buy my wife imported lingerie and I haven't quite gotten the equivalent size differences. Some items are in metric measurement. Is there any guide that lists what American sizes correspond to European sizes?
Thank you,
Tom S.
 
Thanks for the great question.  I still have to stop and think before I order anything from overseas.  There are some wonderful things out there, but getting the correct size isn't always easy.  I've copied a few suggested links that I've used in the past to help in getting the right size when I order from outside the US.  I hope this helps.  Thanks for writing.
http://www.lingeriestudio.com/sizing.html
http://www.herroom.com/european-lingerie-size-conversions,929,30.html
http://www.agentprovocateur.com/lingerie_size_guide.php

 
Mercedes,
Can you tell me why fully fashioned seamed stockings snag and ladder so easily?  After many months of requests one of my ex's friends finally agreed to do some modeling for me.  For a lady in her fifties she has wonderfully shaped legs and ankles and I just knew we'd get some really great shots.  I had specially bought some very expensive signature stockings in black, brown, light tan and white.  All but the white snagged as she was putting them on.  We couldn't work out why.  It wasn't her nails, they were long but manicured and we came to the conclusion it was the act of pulling the stocking over foot and along the leg.  Expensive stockings should be more resilient!
Mike

It is tough to answer exactly why without actually being there to see the stockings, or your friend putting them on.  Sometimes on the expensive stockings, little things like rough-cracked skin can catch, or maybe a toenail, hangnail, etc.  But having not actually been there, I can't say for sure.  Some tips for next time, maybe a pedicure before she tries to put them on, make sure she's shaved her legs, and do anything to keep everything smooth and soft before attempting to put the stockings on.  Another tip, maybe buy some cheaper stockings for the photo shoot.  Sometimes they are tougher, and if they aren't, at least you didn't waste as much money. 
Let me know if any of my advice helps.  Good luck with the pictures!

As a prospective member, would we get more frequent updates?

Hon, I'm not sure what you are asking, since there is no membership to my site.   I'm one of a dying breed of sites that isn't membership driven.  I do this because I enjoy it.  If you want to see more, you need to purchase photo sets or my DVD's.  I hope to see an order from you soon, and I hope it's all you dream it is. 

whats your most embarrassing moment in a skirt or stockings? 

 A fair, but embarrassing question…thanks for asking.  Probably my most embarrassing time was my wedding day..  We women want everything to be perfect, that’s just how we are.  So, imagine my embarrassment when, walking down the isle for the ceremony, Tom tells me that my garters and stockings were showing through my wedding dress.  I wasn’t wearing a slip and my girlfriend who helped me get dressed never mentioned it to me.  So, imagine my situation, knowing I’m showing my stockings and garters as I stand there in the front of the church!! I also had to turn around and walk back down the isle!! It also explained a lot of things later, like the way the minister was smiling and looking at me!
 
on your main page all i get is a red x  cant get any pic. up   how come you dont gave us any boobs shot on any of your pics. on the the web page    to see what we can buy    thank   tim

I'm not sure why the pictures are being blocked on your computer.  Sometimes virus protection software will block pictures  and you have to "right-click" to show them when the browser loads.  If you're on a network, sometimes network administrators have certain sites or types of sites that won't allow pictures to show.  I've asked other readers, and they are not having the problem you are.  I'm sorry I can't help you more on that one, and I'm sorry you can't see my pictures.
As for "boob shots", that's not what my site is about.  There is no nudity anywhere on the site.  If you're looking for boob shots and more, you'll have to find another site.  I don't charge for access to my site, only for photo sets and worn items.  I'm all about promoting the wearing of stockings, garters, slips, all those things that not only make a woman look sexy, but also make her feel sexy.  I believe that the imagination is a wonderful thing, and leaving some things to the imagination is what you'll find on my site.
Have a great day.  Thanks for writing.
 

Mercedes ; do you have any [private] videos for sale maybe with a GIRL or boy friend or maybe with a husband ?...would love to see you strut your stuff...come on girl lets see what you got...thanks...Kent

Sorry to disappoint, but I don't have private videos, pictures, or anything like you are looking for.  I don't run a porn site.  I'm all about promoting stockings and slips, all those sexy things that make a woman feel sexy and seductive and make men's imagination's run wild.  I'm sure there are more than enough sites out there that have what you are looking for, and I'm not in competition with them.  I'm simply promoting the allure and mystique of women when they wear sexy things like stockings and slips.
 

Hi Mercedes, Do you sleep in sexy nightwear? Have
you ever thought of doing a set with sexy nighties? Bill

Of course I sleep in sexy nightwear, but not every night.  What woman doesn’t like the feel of soft silky lingerie against their skin at night?  I also enjoy sleeping in oversized men’s dress shirts.  I guess it all depends on my mood that night  just what I wear.  As for doing photo sets in sexy nighties…. I’ve done some in the past, but maybe it’s time to do some more, it’s been a while.  Thanks for the idea!

 

MECEDES MY GODDESS! I WOULD LOVE TO SEE YOU IN MORE SHEER BLACK RH&T OR FF STOCKINGS AND GARTERS WITH RUNS! ALSO WOULD LIKE TO SEE RUNNED SHEER BLACKS IN YOU ITEMS FOR SALE AREA!  WALLY YOUR RUNS LOVER.

I'll see what I can do!! Check out the above picture.

 

Hi Mercedes,
thanks again for a great and very provocative web site.
I have been a fan of yours now for over 8 years; however I miss some of the earlier shots of you.
Is there any chance that you will devote a page in the future say entiltled "in the beginning" or maybe "do you remember" etc.much appreciated. Brian

Brian
Thanks so much for being a fan for so long.  I always enjoy hearing from my fans from way back when. 
 I think you have some good ideas on the old stuff.  I'll see if there is anything I can do to revive the early day pictures.  Part of that issue is they are of a lesser quality, but maybe that would add to the appeal of them.
Have a great day, and thanks again for your note.
 

For years I have enjoyed your pictures, but have never purchased any.  The main reason is because I think the disrobing will stop before it is complete, and after I have paid the price.  I don't mean the essentials:  garters, stockings and heels - these should always stay on, but that's all.  Ultimately, when all is said and done, is everything else gone?  Do the jewels remain hidden from sight making this the ultimate tease? 
Just curious,   A Fan

So you think I'm the Ultimate Tease huh.  Sounds like a good name for a photo set.  The purpose of my site is to promote the wearing of stockings, garters, heels and slips by today's women.  I think that both men and women have forgotten just how sexy and alluring a woman is when she spends a little extra time and energy to dress using these items.  I know it makes me feel very sexy when I'm wearing them, and I want other women to know that feeling.  It also feels great to know that it creates that special feeling in a man when you want him to focus on nobody but you.  So, that is why I have my site.  Imagination is a wonderful thing.  I could never put into pictures or words what a person imagines when they look at a picture of a sexy woman giving them "that look", showing a stocking top, a garter belt, a high heel.  No, your imagination paints a much more involved image than I could ever create by showing the jewels. 
So, while I know it won't create a sale, I have to admit I'm a tease, and I love it.  I'm not in business to sell anything but what you see.  You will see more of me in the photo sets than you do in the previews, but you won't see everything, that's just not me. 
Thanks for the letter.
 

Re: the picture on your current main page of your website
(back seat of limo with white hat and stockings)
1. What photo set is that from?
2. Where can I buy stockings like that ? (ordering info?)
Thanks,
Kevin R

To answer your first question, this month's cover photo is from the set named Limo 3.  If you go to the Gallery of Stockings, there are a few more photo's from that set there if you care to take a peak.  Your second question, where to order.  If you go the the Links on my site, Secrets & Lace sell them under the name "Radiance".  I'm sure you could also probably find them other places also.
Thanks for the questions!